Self Compassion, Self Esteem and Self Pity

Self-compassion is a concept that is new to me.  I'm currently learning about it in treatment. Self-esteem is entirely different however and something I've been familiar with most of my life.

I think I've always had low self-esteem and have engaged in unhealthy habits in order to boost it. For example, feeling the unnecessary need to be the center of attention in many circumstances. I also have a long history of alcohol and drug abuse relative to low self esteem. There is a need for a healthy self-esteem but it should be built on the proper foundation of self love and a healthy acceptance of yourself.

I am learning that self-compassion however should not be confused with self-pity either, which is a self defeating emotion. Self-compassion is more about having empathy for oneself not pity. It is understanding one's own imperfections, mistakes and realizing you are not alone. It is reliant on the understanding of common humanity, as well as accepting imperfection in oneself.

In order to practice self-compassion you need to be mindful. Mindfulness involves being non-judgmental which when used for self-compassion means being non-judgmental of oneself. It essentially revolves around being a kind friend to yourself.

Right now, I think self compassion is probably more necessary than ever. We have an issue at hand that requires us to remind ourselves of our common Humanity. 

There's a lot of folks out there that are struggling, who may feel guilty or ashamed of their ability to pay bills or put food on the table and are in need of assistance. The use of self-compassion reminds us that we are not alone in these circumstances and in all circumstances regardless.